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Black Men That REFUSE To Date Black Women
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Feb 6, 2025
#blacklove #blackwomen #dating Why do some Black men refuse to date Black women? Have they fallen victim to the propaganda waged against Black women? Stamped from the Beginning: https://amzn.to/3N8NlbU
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have you seen videos like this D1
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athletes are on heavy scrutiny after a
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viral video goes in on how some prefer
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to date and marry white women over black
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women what is what is the black
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girlfriend effect so you'll see a guy
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who's had a black girlfriend all of a
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sudden he's got buzz cut
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like they shave their hair cuz they
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start losing it cuz they're so stressed
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around this black girl complaining about
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all they grow beer because
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there's more cushion when they get SLA
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the out
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of or like this all of my friends who
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are married to white women or women
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outside of their quote unquote race um
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are married because these women were
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loving to them kind to them supportive
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of them this is a topic that won't die
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out in my circle as much as I wanted to
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I know a couple of black men that say
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they won't date black women no matter
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what and in case you haven't heard of
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the old and tired stereotypes that led
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to some black men a very small
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percentage I should point out is that
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black women are too aggressive or they
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don't know how to listen they're not
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submissive enough too dominating blah
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blah blah this group of black men say
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that if you want to pursue true love you
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have to get with a non-black woman well
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I'm just going to say it now I'm tired
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of hearing like this but I'm going to
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hold back my true feelings on these men
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until the very end of this video first I
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want to explore where this Frame of
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thinking came from and how we got here
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today because I believe there are
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cultural influences at work here that
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these group of men don't even understand
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is at play and before we get started I'm
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not advocating that anyone should only
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date inside of their own race we are
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followers of the great Martin Luther
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King on this channel I have a dream my
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poor little children will one day live
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in a nation where they will not be
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judged by the color of their skin but by
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the content of their character I'm also
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going to quote an amazing book I read
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lately called stamp from the beginning
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by ibram X KY this book is amazing
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everyone should read it so first let's
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examine some hisory history the history
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of African-American female stereotypes
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in the United States is deeply rooted in
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centuries of racial and gender bias
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which began during the transatlantic
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slave trade and was reinforced through
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various social political and cultural
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systems these stereotypes have evolved
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over time but have consistently served
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to dehumanize and marginalize black
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women some of the most damaging
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stereotypes include the mamy The Jezebel
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and angry black women all of which have
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been used to portray black women as
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aggressive unattractive and hypersexual
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the Mami stereotype is one of the
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earliest and most prevalent depictions
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of black wom as loyal asexual and a
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nurturing caretaker for white families
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the Mami was often depicted as
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overweight unattractive and content with
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her subservient role this image served
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to contrast black women with white women
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reinforcing the idea that black women
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were unattractive and suited only for
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domestic work think of the good old
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anchamima I did a video on the racist
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history of this fictional character a
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while back check it out after this video
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If you haven't yet who remembers when
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Trump talked about this why are we
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getting rid of anchamima I liked anima
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in an extreme contrast to the Mami The
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Jezebel stereotype portrayed black women
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as hypersexual promiscuous and morally
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loose The Stereotype emerged during
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slavery where the sexual exploitation of
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black women was justified by
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characterizing them as inherently
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lascivious then there is the sapphire or
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angry black woman stereotype the
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sapphire stereotype emerged from popular
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media portrayals of black woman as loud
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aggressive and emasculating particularly
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towards black men this stereotype
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evolved into the angry black woman which
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continues to exist today casting black
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women as irrationally angry hostile and
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unreasonably combatant through all of
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these stereotypes black women were
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constructed as both physically and
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emotionally less desirable in comparison
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to white women the Mam's lack of
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femininity and sexual appeal the
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Isabel's hypersexuality and the
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Sapphire's aggression have all worked to
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position black women as outside the
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bounds of acceptable Womanhood all of
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these started during slavery times so
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are we really surprised that black women
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are portrayed as these awful stereotypes
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in ibram X KY stamp from the beginning
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the definitive history of racist ideas
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in America Ki traces the history of
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these racist and sexual ideas noting how
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they were deliberately constructed to
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justify oppression he discusses how
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black women since the area of slavery
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were cast in stereotypes to support
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racist hierarchies The Stereotype of the
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angry black women KY points out has been
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weaponized to discredit black women who
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speak out against their racial Injustice
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and while we're at it we might as well
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examine the preference for light-skinned
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or fair skinned women over dark skinned
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women in America although this issue is
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a global one this issue is not just
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cross-racial but within racial groups
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too like the black community this
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phenomenon is often referred to as
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colorism a form of discrimination where
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individuals with lighter skin tones are
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favored over the ones with darker
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complexion during slavery black people
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were seen as property and enslave black
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women were frequently sexually exploited
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by white slave holders of course the
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children born from these unions had
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lighter skin due to their mixed Heritage
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these lighter skinn individuals were
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sometimes given preferential treatment
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compared to darker skinn slaves
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light-skinned black women in particular
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were more likely to work in domestic
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roles inside the plantation this this
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created a division among enslaved people
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based on skin tone fostering a hierarchy
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within the black community itself and
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just a quick side note are there any
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dark skinn lead singers in any R&B
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groups can you guys name some and that
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goes for men and women I guess men there
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are some I can think of some men but
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when it comes to women can you name any
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off the top of your head leave a comment
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below so we have two issues here we have
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several negative stereotypes of black
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women that have gone mainstream and the
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black women that are preferred or picked
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are the ones that have physical
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resemblances to white women the negative
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view of black women is also present in
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the black community in the men I
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mentioned at the start of this video
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which brings me back to the whole point
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of this whole lecture on History are
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these specific black men just victims of
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the mass propaganda against their own
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women I personally have to say I believe
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so there are these tired stories of
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black men becoming successful and
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running off to marry a white woman these
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black entertain ERS with non-black wives
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are like Idols to the group of black men
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who point to them and say see what I'm
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talking about but they failed to mention
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or maybe even realize that 85% of
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married black men are married to black
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women my issue is not with black men who
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date outside of their race but with the
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ones that say I will never date a black
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woman and then they go on social media
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to stereotype all black women into a
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certain box when these black men say
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they refuse to data race because of
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either their own experience or because
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of other being s what they don't
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understand is that they are just
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perpetuating social stereotypes that
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have been around since the founding of
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this country to publicly say that all
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black women are angry or aggressive or
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don't know how to treat a man you're
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helping to push an agenda that has
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attacked black women before you even
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existed and if you are going to tell me
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you're basing your bias on your personal
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experience of the women you saw growing
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up I have news for you your experience
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does not Encompass all black women or
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even a tiny percentage of them speaking
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on person personal experience I can tell
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you that I have met several different
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types of black women throughout my life
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they're all different like humans are
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different and they are all the same like
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humans are the same there are quiet ones
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loud ones outgoing ones Smart Ones
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manipulative ones giving ones strong
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ones funny ones serious ones and the
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list goes on and on and on even though I
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will admit there are cultural issues
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that both black men and black women need
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to fit especially dealing with each
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other going on the internet and saying
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your personal grievances does not fix
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anything and notice I said black men too
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our issues are Community issues not
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black women issues and that's it for
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